I use to sit back and think to myself about how much I use to make the most dumbest ass decisions which ended up screwing up everything good I had built and accomplish in my life. I felt like there was nothing I could do to make things normal again. It got so bad I thought things would not be the same and it would take a miracle to get back to where I once were. I was almost right. BUT man, was I wrong.   When you feel like you have screwed up everything important in your life, you realize you have nothing to lose.   When you realize you have nothing to lose, you feel an almost overwhelming sense of freedom. That means you can do anything you like.   Because you really have nothing to lose.   That's exactly what happened to me...I realized I didn't have anything to lose. So I might as well be a little selfish and focus all my time and energy on becoming a better version of myself and of course loving me more-putting myself first, which meant NO MORE excuses, NO MOR

There is this belief that has been instilled in us from children to adults that "no one is perfect" Well, I disagree with that false statement...let me explain... We are not born identical,  not even identical twins are truly identical because we have our own unique DNA, characteristics,  personality and identity. We are all our own person with our own attitudes, language, education, gifts etc. We bleed the same color blood but not the same blood... I may not be perfect in others eyes because I AM NOT that person. I AM ME...I AM perfect in my own way because I AM not you and you are not me. I have my own unique qualities, gift, love and life. I AM perfect because I AM one and there can not be another me and it will never be anyone like me. Do you see yourself as a perfect being? ...because I do. Theresa Cattouse Relationship Coach and Wedding officiant Twin Soul Connections I enjoy what I do and I do it out of passion...If you enjoy my work please don't hesitate to

The beginning of the year I went from feeling isolated, unaccepted, weird and unwanted to the end of this year, meeting some of the greatest people in my life, found a new self confidence and love for myself, producing some of the best goddamn work of my life and never feeling more loved. Things can change so quickly if you surround yourself with love and people who emanate love. You never know whether the "up" after your massive "down" is going to be within the next few days, weeks, months or even years but don’t give up. After the down always comes a massive upswing. You never know where the future may take you, it’s always worth carrying on. Theresa Cattouse Wedding Officiant and Relationship Coach Twin Soul Connections I love what I do and I do it out of passion. If you enjoy my work please don't hesitate to offer a small donation to keep my blog and services going via CASH APP  $karmicstar or PayPal.me/twinsoulconnections. Much love, light

When You have someone Great in your life don't take them for granted.. Appreciate everything they do for you, love them the way they love you, don't have secrets and always put them on a pedestal just to show them that they are your King or Queen. There will be others who will hate on your relationship and try to " test the waters" or show them things that maybe you 2 have not done. Just know outside influences, the streets, hoes and players are not worth losing someone who has always had & have your back and 9 times out of 10 always will... Theresa Cattouse Zollicoffer Wedding Officiant and Relationship Coach Twin Soul Connections 773-570-5197 I love what I do and I do it out of passion...If you enjoymy work please don't hesitate to offer a small donation to keep my blog and services going Cash.me/$karmicstar Paypal.me/twinsoulconnections

have you ever sat there and thought to yourself “im X years old I should be doing X by now” or sat there comparing your achievements to that of someone else? judging yourself based on what others are doing is detrimental. why? because someone elses achievements are part of their personal journey. never compare your beginning to someone else’s middle. trust that what is set and meant for you will indeed manifest in your life at the right specific time. whether thats occupational, financial or emotional growth. growth can be defined as development. time brings development. thus it cannot be forced. take your steps, small or big, to achieve your goals and when the time is right you will be looking back witnessing your development personal to you. crafted by you. created by you. trust the route of your journey. only when you trust whats meant for you will occur, is when the journey will start making sense. next time you find yourself comparing your growth to someone elses, instead of ask

Everyone wants an automated business that runs in their sleep. Sounds wonderful, doesn’t it? But if you start with an automated business, you miss out on an incredible opportunity to really get to know your audience. I’m talking about one-on-one relationship coaching. This year I started a business that helps men and women deal with relationship issues. Today, I’ve personally coached over 50 of these beautiful souls in my target market, helping them get over the emotional turmoil of separation. I’ve made over six figures from coaching clients so far. And more important, through one-on-one relationship coaching, I’ve uncovered the major barriers people have with the grieving process. Insights that have helped skyrocket my impact and revenue. It would have taken me years to uncover these if I didn’t have a one-on-one relationship with so many clients. Oh, and I did all this while holding down a full-time job as a telephone operator. I have a snapshot of my revenue from coaching le

Heal yourself the best way you can or know how before getting into another relationship after a breakup. Heal the peices of you that still wants your ex, because if you force yourself into another relationship just to get over your ex you would be using that person as a void to hide what you are really going through or better yet as a rebound. You would be craving that connection You guys once had. You would also be looking for your exes characteristics in that person you are currently dating and it's guaranteed to not work in the end...so why put yourself or that person in that situation? It's best to cut the cord and let go so that you can make room for new beginnings, new relationships and a very bright and potential future in regards to your KING or QUEEN. Do not hold yourself back from the "true' love that awaits you! You have to remember that sometimes pain, tears and grief is just a hidden blessing of what is yet to come. As the saying goes "let go and

In my life, I have survived: Death of my fiance 12 years ago... Molested by 5 years old... Took advantage of by 13 ... I've been homeless... Experimented with drugs... Disregarded by family... Contemplated suicide ... Survived a 6-year emotionally abusive relationship... Lost my soulmate due to my indescretions... Laid off from a great job that I thought I would retire from. Had to let my best friend who I once called my sister go due to drugs, promiscuity and chaos. Men saw my vulnerability and took advantage of that and I let them. I almost lost everything when I lost myself. I WAS RAPED BY LIFE After all of that I m ade it out alive , f ound my voice, worth and identity ... Life has its ways of showing you how beautiful it can be and how it can screw you all at once ... Growing up I made alot of excuses for why I continued to play myself and live less then what I was potentially capable of. I blamed the world for my downfalls even though those downfalls were

When people have something negative to say about you it's out of fear..meaning fear of self! They have insecurities that they need to overcome but they project it in a negative way by lashing out and talking about others that is their way of continuing to hide their own insecurities. Don't let their words, their grief, their misery bother you because their issues are way worse then anyone else's. Best thing to do is laugh it off, live your life and continue being the great person that you are. Remember thats their karma they need to overcome! Much love, light and wisdom Theresa Cattouse Marriage Officiant and Relationship TWIN SOUL CONNECTIONS tcattouse@gmail.com

I believe we were brought into this world to serve others in some form, shape or fashion...I also believe we were placed here to learn about ourselves and grow mentally and spiritually. The only problem is that alot of us tend to take on the weight of others and put more effort into others wellbeing instead of our own and thats when it becomes a problem. Let me explain... You exhaust yourself by taking on others issues "trying" to help them out when you know dang on well that you are experiencing similar circumstances, but you sat yourself aside to tend to the other individuals needs while neglecting your own which can cause mental chaos...just as the old saying goes "How can we care for others when we don't care for ourselves." As you come to the other persons aid and they succeed due to your help they move on with their lives with a mere "thank you" right? But yet your still stuck in the same place mentally and emotionally with no one to assist

This is a facebook post that one of my FB friends @kenjipace  ( Kenji Pace) created. The words are strong and have much great meaning that I had to post this as this week's blog post...Please read without judgement and with understanding...this is a daily thing for the black men in America this also includes our black women also. Enjoy! Dear America Why do you hate me is it because of the fairness of my skin or is it the empowerment that it brings or is the fact that you don't understand my existence. Dear America, why do you hate me is it because you are afraid to get to get to know me, instead, you engulf me in chains and demean me by placing labels on me such as minority, thief, murderer, deadbeat. America you hated the fact that we elected a president of our own skin who motto was yes we can. America you cringed at the fact he was making black America great again. Dear America, do you ever get tired of fighting this same battle over and over with us, i don’t think you d

Love has so many meanings and I fall under many...I love love, I hate love,  I fear love, I despise love, I run from love, love hurts but yet I can't get enough of it. Love is euphoric, sometimes distant, painful, deadly, mind blowing,  platonic, evil, spell binding, brain washing...and after all the meanings that love is we can't live without LOVE... WE  ARE love... I AM love... The most profound definition of love is SELF LOVE...without love we would cease to exist. Theresa Cattouse Wedding Officiant and Relationship Coach Twin Soul Connections www.facebook.com/twinsoulconnections I love what I do and I do it at a passion... if you also enjoy my work please feel free to leave a small donation via cash app or PayPal

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The Problem With A Closed Door... Personally, the main problem I have with a strict closed door policy is that we (as a nation) tend to make ourselves weaker if it’s enforced. What if the five-year-old immigrant child has in his or her brain the answer to cure cancer? How many immigrants which includes minority children are our future inventors, engineers, teachers, or entrepreneurs who are here to enrich not only their lives, but also are here to enrich the lives of all Americans. We become stronger as a nation when we invite and help cultivate young, positive minds. I think that one of the problems we have stemming from our current Administration in Washington, DC is that there’s an assumption of negativity associated with immigrants amd minorities such as “they’re taking away our jobs”, "make America great again" ect. Actually, immigrant and minority youths have done more positive things to strengthen America than they’ve been given credit for. How many refugees and imm

By me being a relationship coach me dealing with a breakup should be simple right? WRONG...it's as hard for me as it is for others because we once loved someone who we either broke up with or vice versa and every one of our situations are different but the hurt, cries, pain and emotional suffering feels the same. But each one offers us different lessons that we all have to see and learn. The good news is once we get the grieving process out of our system WE ALL WILL BREAK THROUGH AND SHINE BRIGHT LIKE THE DIAMONDS THAT WE ARE . Theresa Cattouse Relationship Coach/Marriage Officiant Chicago www.facebook.com/twinsoulconnections I love what I do and I do it out of passion of helping others cope with relationship issues especially dealing with breakups and witnessing a couples happiest day of their lives joining as one. This is my career and life's calling...if you also enjoy my work please don't hesitate to offer a small donation to keep this blog and work going.  👇 Ca

If it takes some time, then take the time. If it requires some effort, then make the effort. When you don’t know how, you can learn. When you require some assistance, ask for it. If one path is blocked, start looking for another way. When something knocks you off track, get up quickly and point yourself back in the right direction. Decide that you will not tolerate any excuses, not from yourself or from anyone else. Do what it takes to deal with life as it comes, and firmly take control of your own destiny. Be kind, be polite, be respectful and understanding, all while being your own person. Spend less time complaining and judging, and more time making a real, positive difference. Your life is in your hands. So keep those hands working in a thankful, loving and effective way. Theresa Cattouse Marriage Officiant/Relationship Coach www.facebook.com/twinsoulconnections I love what I do out of passion and helping others as they go through rough times. My knowledge, sharing of my own

I think something we all need to remember is that even when it seems like everything’s going wrong, we are the authors of our own narratives . We are in control of our outlook on life, our emotions and reflections towards our environment and our attitudes towards anything that comes our way. Even when it looks like everything is going wrong, we are in control for catching that voice of negativity and turning it around, re-wording outlooks and thoughts to make ourselves better because, and I truly believe this, what we constantly think about, complain about, worry about, we give power . When you’re constantly complaining about a situation, you are giving that situation power over you and your life! And this process can take days, weeks or even months to gradually change your outlook on your own narrative but if you practice and practice, you’ll be able to catch yourself falling back into this habit and snip it within a couple of hours. So take control of your own narrative! And mak

Sometimes change is good even though in the moment it may seem as if everything is falling apart,  but once the storm is over you will realize yet again that it was actually for the best and that's when things starts to balance itself out... In the end that change you once feared in that particular moment turns out to be a great and one of the best things that has ever happened to you whether you wanted it or not. The universe is watching, waiting, listening and takes action at the appropriate time. There are always consequences to every action whether good or bad... so always throw out good karma by being grateful for every day life has to offer even lessons learned, continue to be kind to others by showing respect or even giving a small compliment, or just call someone in your inner circle and tell them you love them and how much you care. Last but not least learn to let go, holding on can cause so much emotional turmoil inside especially when it involves someone who doesn'

Martin Luther King Jr. sacrificed his life so that we as African Americans/Black people could have the life that we are blessed with in this day and age. He didn't sacrifice his life for us to make excuses on why we can't do this or that or to rob, steal, especially KILL one another...He gave his life for us to succeed in life and exceed all others expectations...He gave his life for us to come together as a people and lift each other up not to bring each other down. He gave his life so that we could educate ourselves so that we could become Drs, Lawyers, Teachers, & anything else of high standard not for us to become illegal drug dealers or any type of criminals for that matter. He gave his life so that we could live the "American Dream" with our own home, car and job not for us to live behind bars just existing. We need to show our appreciation to Dr King & come up as a people and be not just the best but the GREATEST that we were born to be. 

Finding your soulmate, or should I say… ONE of your MANY soulmates, is becoming more common place these days. I had coffee with one of mine a few days ago! I could tell the first time we spoke on the phone that this guy was someone from my soul family. Today’s post is going to describe HOW I was able to identify him as a soulmate. 5 – Ways To Identify A SOULMATE When You Meet Them – (even over the phone) #1. RESONANCE When you interact with someone from your soul family in any way, there will be an unmistakable resonance. What I mean exactly is that you will experience the sensation that you are both ONE thing… one person. The “sense of separation” is noticeably reduced and you’ll find that you both are simply, very compatible. I realize this sounds a bit abstract, but those of you reading this know what I mean 🙂 Here’s one way to look at it. When you walk into a busy store. You know how it is… Everyone is high strung and racing around with their own agenda

When we were kids we didn't really have any cares or worries in the world...the only thing we worried about was breakfast, lunch and dinner and don't forget snack time. As teens our worries, wants and curiosity goes from innocence to responsibility and into this reality that we are never really prepared for. There are times when I sit and think of my childhood and how my parents never really sat down and had "that talk" with me about life and what to expect when it came to being an adult...but I had to learn the hard way and as of now I'm still not prepared for the challenges that has been bestowed upon me in these days and the days to come. I've experienced hardships, bad relationships, let downs from family and so called friends and the lists goes on and on. Yet I am far from innocent and I can't put the blame on anyone for my trails and tribulations but myself. I've reflected so many different images due to what I've been through

I am writing from my favorite spot, my front porch. I can smell the lilacs blooming and it's amazing. There is just one thing missing . . . my soulmate. It’s been a little over 9 months since me and my ex decided to part ways...I still here and there  think about him and all the good times we've had but also think about the lessons that the relationship has taught me about myself and what I want out of my next relationship which would hopefully be my twin flame/soulmate. So you can imagine what I was like 9 months ago....depressed, sad, in a deep fog . . . heartbroken. In my last few blog entries, I get real about the pain and how I began to heal while still living life and running my business. It’s not easy to grieve and be social at the same time or even getting on a call with a client about officiating their wedding. And I know I am not the only one that has grieved over a breakup. I had a few strategies that really helped me in hopes that they will help you too. I am so

People often mistaken the true meaning of a mother. A Mother is a woman who brings up a child with care and affection and that could be a woman that is a step parent an adoptive parent, a relative or a woman who steps up to the plate and of course the biological mother ... There is no other person stronger then a woman who raises a child whether by herself or with the help of others and is actively in their lives.  There are people out there who doesn't appreciate their mother or who fails to recognize how valuable their mother really are and sometimes they don't realize their mothers' worth until its too late.  Mothers Day is celebrated once a year, but should be celebrated everyday for the mothers' that's going through the struggle, for the ones that keeps LOVE strong in their household, for the ones that keep the faith even when it seems as if all is lost, for the ones that work hard to keep their kids looking good & healt

When I first looked in to your eyes, I saw a strong woman who had all the capacity to love me more than I have ever dreamed of being loved...and to have this dream come true has given me a whole new perspective of life, love and forever; You have restored my faith and hope of whats to come.I thank you baby for loving me in ways only you can, and for believing in me despite all the naysayers, when I really didn't have anyone else to. I am so grateful for all that I know you will be in the future. My best friend, lover and my most trusted wife!!! Love Always and Forever!! Theresa Cattouse Wedding Officiant Twin Love Connections Chicago www.facebook.com/twinsoulconnections

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