Relationships Aren't Built On A Foundation of Lies She met him when he was still married. The secret meetings and stolen phone calls only added to the excitement of the affair. Now he’s left his wife to be with her.  Why would she think he won't do the same thing to her? Oh, yea, she's different. That's why. Time to face the cold, hard truth.   It’s most likely not going to be different with her -- it almost never is.  When our relationship begins on a foundation of deceit and lies, then the rest of the house is usually built that way too.  For him to be with her required him to break the sacred vows he made to his wife. This tells her something about his ability (or lack thereof) to make a commitment and keep a promise -- if she's willing to see it.  This isn’t a pleasant truth to face, but it’s oh-so-important to do it sooner than later. Healthy relationships are built on mutual trust and respect.  That’s a foundation we can build a future on. And we all deserve